Down the Shore   6 comments

If you need any more proof that I’m a man married to the places and routines of the past (as if the knowledge that I’m still living in my hometown in my grandparent’s house isn’t evidence enough), it’s the fact that I continue to return to Sea Isle City, this beautiful, often-times overcrowded, overgrown sand bar off the South Jersey coast.  I’ve been coming here since I was thirteen.  Our rental that year was a tiny bungalow that crammed six into the same square footage of your average one-car garage.  That cottage has since disappeared under thirty year years of development and exists only in fogbanks of memory.

Bridge into Sea Isle – every year right before we reached the bridge, the smell of salt marsh would fill the car signalling our arrival ‘downdashore”.

The property I rented this year, up the street from the place we stayed three decades ago, housed a fraternity.  I can still remember those mystical looking Greek letters hanging on the old asbestos siding, and the leering, drunken frat-boys who crowded the porch who would hoot and holler at my step-aunt – a young woman who was only two years older than me and the subject of my unknown affection that entire, painful summer.  As our vacation progressed, I would quietly seethe at their comments, imagining all manners of revenge against these older boys with their pack confidence and knowing smiles.

This is where we stayed this year. Now imagine it without the new siding, the closed in porch up top, and filled to the brim with drunken douchebags and you can see what it looked like in 1982.

It’s the nature of these memories that most draw me.  Because they happened only once a year, they remain frozen in a specific place and time like Polaroid snapshots. Snap.  I’m thirteen, small and skinny, have yet to kiss a girl, and pine for love unrequited.  Snap.  I’m fifteen, older, more mature, not only have I kissed a girl (not my Aunt – don’t worry), I’ve passed one tentative hand across her chest and thought that I had nearly touched divinity itself.  Snap.  I’m seventeen and know everything about everything and can drive my old Plymouth Valiant down to sit on the rocks and stare at the sea whenever I feel melancholy and want to look like some tragic, romantic poet.  Snap.  I’m a young father and watching my babies as they joyously leap the waves and dig into the warm sand.  Snap, I’m 43 and know now I never actually knew anything; my little girls are teenagers and able to go off and find their own fun, and I’m left with the quiet, constant sound of the ocean a few blocks away.

The Starfish – my stepfather would take me out every year. Caught the biggest fish of my life on this boat – a 21 inch bluefish. Twenty years later, I would take my daughters on the same boat.

The shore has been the backdrop for almost all the key moments in my life.  The unceasing sea bore witness the first time Maureen said she loved me.  I bent the knee and asked her to be my wife on the rocks in Cape May  An old jetty in Sea Isle, winter waves crashing around me, was where I decided to drop out of college and strike out on my own at nineteen; and the never-ending, April beach in Wildwood was the setting when I decided it was time to return to school three years later.

Whenever I would get moody, which was approximately 75% of the time between 17 and 21, I would drive down and sit on these rocks and contemplate my place in the universe. Not sure why I didn’t get beat up more often!

And as much as the shore has provided memories of laughter and light, it’s also a place that harbors some regret.  After I graduated High School, I had the opportunity to spend the summer working at my stepfather’s bike shop.  An opportunity wasted putting unnecessary miles on my old Valiant visiting a girl I no longer loved, hung up on feelings of guilt and misplaced obligation. The outcome of that summer:  hundreds of dollars in phone bills and a blistering case of ringworm from sleeping on the bike shop floor.  It’s a huge wayback machine moment, second only to that damn elevator in Westchester.

twenty-five years ago, this was Jim’s Bike and Sport. To this date, the only shore store to be whined out of business. The new place has really good sticky buns though, so I guess it was worth it!

And a more general regret. Regret that I did not think to come down here more as a very young man with all the freedoms and joys that age offers.  Regret for not understanding that youth is transient and those years disappear faster than the beach after a winter storm.  I wish I had added to those mental snapshots, but hope that my girls will learn from me and be sure to live life to its fullest as they bloom into young adulthood.

Sea Isle Bars – just a few of the dozens of SIC hotspots I apparently forgot existed between the ages of 18 and 23!

Ultimately, the shore is a place of renewal, of change.  The sea is timeless and holds no regret. The waves take away old sand and replace it with new just as the duplexes of one era come down to be replaced by the multiplexes of today, which will in turn be replaced by the MultiMegaPlexes of tomorrow.  Memories grow softer around the edge like the sea turning glass into gems of wonder glowing in the summer light.  It is a place where all times exist at once.  I stand on my porch and suddenly it’s 1982 and I’m a frat boy laughing down at the skinny 13 year old protecting the honor of his aunt; I stop at the 7-11 on Landis and it’s 1986 and Mallons across the street becomes Jim’s Bike and Sport and I’m hanging onto the phone with my girlfriend, bemoaning the good fortune of living rent free in a young man’s paradise.  I walk through the inlet and it’s 2006 and I’m watching my little ones excitedly gather shells and splash in the surf.  It is today, and I’m hugging my oldest as she leaves to start her first day of college; and I hope that we will always come back here, to find renewal , to reflect, to dump the year’s regrets and petty little stresses into the ever-moving waves, and to build those mental snapshots that last a lifetime.

The Promenade in Sea Isle – I spent a good portion of my mid teens trying to meet girls here with the worst wingman ever (my 4 years younger cousin!)

Unfortunately, SuperStorm Sandy killed off this (the second) incarnation of the SIC Funland

The Colonnade Inn…..I plan on buying it with my first multi-million dollar book contract…I guess I should get working on that book!

Posted September 5, 2012 by Jim Knipp in Catnip

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6 responses to “Down the Shore

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  1. Always love your blogs, even when they bring back bittersweet memories:)

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  2. My shore time moved to the next generation this summer when my grandson made it to Wildwood to ride rides on the Boardwalk with his grandma! He’s making his memories too.

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  3. Pingback: The Obligatory end-of-year Retrospective | KnippKnopp

  4. Reblogged this on KnippKnopp and commented:

    sorry for the continued recycling…as I enter vacation mode, thought this would be a good one to repost….

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  5. gave you an ATTABOY

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  6. Love the shore – mine is Ocean City. Get there as often as possible. Thanks for sharing.

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